Are You In or Out?

Growing up there were those in school who stood out. You noticed them. They were involved or engaged as my manager at work once called it. Take a look at those who are involved in society. They attend functions. They are on boards or are members of certain organizations.

Innie or Outie?

One of the questions at my employment is – do you have a friend at work. Why is this important? People who are involved, have friendships, vote, and attend functions are the ones who are cooperating. They feel like they are a part of the team. In the corporate world, that’s an asset to a manager. You care.

Confidence, self-esteem, validation, and greatness

Remember the qualities I listed last week, the ones I said we crave, confidence, self-esteem, validation, and greatness? Understand that greatness didn’t always come to those who were involved in your high school years. Even though Miss Prom Queen got the chance to wear the crown, that doesn’t mean she is still someone you would admire today. To be great, you have to continue to do great things. That requires a strong inner strength.

“Impact is rewarding. Mattering makes us happy.”
Daniel Gilbert, Stumbling on Happiness

I never had the nerve to try out for the lead roles in plays or start a protest, even though I wanted to.  Being in front still makes me uncomfortable, but I realize it’s not the only way to greatness, to mattering. Show up this year. Care.

Be the change for this new year

  • Be a friend.
  • Start a charity fund in your office or group.
  • Take part in giving.
  • Teach a class or contribute to a class.
  • Vote.
  • Speak up.
  • Find and join a cause.
  • Sign a petition.

What I’m reading now: Stumbling on Happiness


  1. To me, it seems that there are seasons – seasons when we are able to be “out there” making a difference, and seasons where we are practically reclusive – restoring, making a difference in our own lives.

    I have been both places. I am happier when I am active and engaged – extroversion is my native land – but I am, perhaps, more quietly, subtly productive when my fields lay fallow, as I restore my energies to keep from burning out like a comet before it makes its impact upon the earth.

    I like to think it is all within my control, but the truth is that no one has control over the seasons. They come and they go. I can only do my best to adapt to them.

    Happy New Year, Janet.

    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMore dot com)
    -ADD Coach Training Field founder/ADD Coaching co-founder-
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

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    • Thanks! It’s taking me a while to respond. I’ve been a little busy. Behind. Overworked. I come out of my shell once a year, kind of like Santa. LOL, I’m not the extrovert, but I do know good involvement when I see it. I choose carefully. It’s important.

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      • Yep – and nobody understands the need to go away from the internet for a while! I’ve been missing for quite some time myself – working on my own needs and challenges.

        Respond whenever you can (or never, if it’s all too much). I won’t take it personally

        Happy New Year!


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